This subliminal persuasion technique is based on the fact that people like to be agreed with and understood.
I agree this might sound like an obvious observation, and what’s most important is that we like it so much, it makes us willing to listen to what else the other person has to say.
Whenever someone disagrees with you, what they’re really saying is:
“You’re wrong. All that stuff you just said is utter rubbish.”
Now I agree they didn’t actually say that. The real issue is that it feels like they did.
And then when they say:
“What you should actually be thinking is this…”
After they’ve disagreed with you and told you you’re wrong, do you really care about what they have to say? Of course you don’t!
By telling you you’re wrong, they’ve put your back up.
It raises resistance, AND it roots you more deeply in your own belief. This is why we become stubborn!
The conversational hypnosis language pattern you’re about to discover is so important because people offer conflicting points all the time.
So you can use this subliminal persuasion technique when selling to someone, when negotiating with someone, when managing someone. Even with something as simple as deciding on what film you’re going to see with your partner.
Imagine how much more difficult you’re making things for yourself when you disagree with someone, and then expect them to see things from your perspective?
“So which subliminal persuasion techniques should I use?”
Whenever you need to disagree with someone, use this subliminal persuasion technique instead:
I agree, and this means…
I agree, and what’s more…
Examples of this Conversational Hypnosis Language Pattern
Sales: “It’s too expensive.”
“I agree, it is expensive. And this gives all of our customer’s peace of mind because they understand they have a high quality product which lasts much longer.”
Management: “We should focus more on the clients we have.”
“I agree, we do need to focus on the clients we have. And what’s more, our highest priority should be to focus more on new ones in case our regular clients leave us for reasons beyond our control.”
Relationships: “We never go out anymore.”
“I agree, we haven’t been out as much recently as we used to. And this means i love you all the more because I’m willing to make sacrifices now to plan for our future together.”
By saying you agree, you keep them on your side, present, and open to the conversation while you slide into the point you want to make.
“But what if I don’t agree?”
I appreciate you won’t agree with everything they say, because that’s the point of this conversational hypnosis pattern! And the real point is that you can agree in principal, or agree to their observation.
In the sales example, we’re agreeing that it’s expensive, not agreeing that it’s too expensive.
In the management example were agreeing that we do need to focus on existing clients, not that we need to focus more on existing clients.
And in the relationships example we’re agreeing that we don’t go out as much, not that we never go out.
One final point in this conversational hypnosis pattern…
It’s really important to use the word “and”, and not “but” in this subliminal persuasion technique.
Read these sentences to yourself:
“I agree, it is expensive. But this gives our customers peace of mind…”
“I agree, it is expensive. And this gives our customers peace of mind…”
Do you feel the difference?
Just like being disagreed with, the word “but” also leaves us feeling negative.
Have you ever had someone say loads of nice things about you, and you’re just waiting for the “but”? “You’re a really strong candidate with great skills and experience. But, we won’t be offering you the job”
Whenever we hear the word but, it deletes everything we heard before it, leaving us focused on whatever they said next.
So to really get the full effect of this conversational hypnosis technique, use the word “and”.